Sliding Doors: Taking a different path without alcohol

Have you ever paused to wonder how different your life might be if you had taken a different route to work, said yes instead of no, or missed a train by just a few seconds? This idea – that tiny, seemingly inconsequential moments can dramatically alter the course of our lives – is at the heart of the 'sliding doors' concept. 

Which path to take?

What Are Sliding Doors Moments? 

The term originates from the 1998 film Sliding Doors. The movie follows two parallel storylines based on whether the protagonist catches or misses a train. From that single moment, her life diverges into two vastly different paths. The film illustrates how fate, choice, and chance intertwine in shaping our destinies. 

Since then, 'sliding doors' has become a metaphor for those pivotal moments – often unnoticed at the time – that steer our lives in new directions. 

The Butterfly Effect in Real Life 

The sliding doors concept is closely related to the 'butterfly effect' in chaos theory: the idea that a butterfly flapping its wings in Brazil could set off a tornado in Texas. In human terms, it’s the notion that a brief encounter, a spontaneous decision, or a missed opportunity can ripple through time, influencing everything from careers to relationships. Think about: 

• A job you didn’t take 

• A conversation that changed your perspective 

• A person you met by chance who became a lifelong friend 

  
  

Each of these could be a sliding door. 

Taking the different path 

For a long time, I was applying the sliding doors concept to abstinence challenges, especially during cravings, but I didn’t know how to describe it. By visualising the two paths, I was able to recognise the opportunity cost of travelling down each route. By using reasoning, I chose to stay on the path without alcohol. Here is an example: 

When my parents visited for a BBQ recently, we all sat in the garden with drinks. My dad had a pint of IPA, my mum had a gin and tonic, and I had a non-alcoholic beer. It was then that I considered the sliding doors concept. We were all enjoying the moment – conversing, eating, and having a drink – but the primary difference was that I wasn’t consuming alcohol. By choosing a non-alcoholic drink, I was able to: 

• Drive my parents to the train station instead of them taking a taxi 

• Remain clear-headed to clean up at the end of the day 

• Put my children to bed as usual 

• Get a restful night’s sleep 

• Wake up at the normal time 

• Avoid a hangover 

  
  

If I had taken the other path, it would have been challenging to achieve the same outcomes. The opportunity costs were evident: by abstaining from alcohol I experienced everything my parents did whilst I retained my energy, motivation and focus.  

Final thoughts 

Maintaining discipline requires consistent effort, and occasional lapses are normal. Utilising methods such as the Sliding Doors concept can assist in staying focused on achieving goals. It can also help motivate you when your energy is low, for example getting you to go to the gym or out the door for that run. What is the opportunity cost for not doing what you set out to do?